What exactly is a counterpunch and why do I need one? Very good questions!
The dictionary defines a counterpunch as the following;
1. a punch thrown in return for one received
Ok, so I’m getting beaten up am I? Who by? I haven’t noticed any bloody nose or bruised cheekbones. But maybe you’ve been experiencing bruised confidence, or feel like your self-image has taken a beating? These kinds of injuries are often harder to see, sometimes invisible if it were not for a few tell-tale signs. We can look at people around us and think they have a perfect life, like they have it all together, but in reality under the surface, they’re hurting. Everyday, especially as girls, we are bombarded from the outside with how we must look, act, feel, dress, behave etc etc etc. And everyday we either put up our hands and ward those blows off or, more often than not, have our guard down and let them land where they will. Pretty soon, no one needs to attack us, we start believing the lies and play the tape of self-destruction in our own heads. Wow, what a master strategy our enemy has!
So we need to think like a boxer, not the K9 kind, the sporting kind! In our small group we talked about the kinds of punches life tries to throw at us, here’s our list:
– You must be skinny– You must be clever
– You must be cool
– You must go to the right school
– You must have the latest phone, iPad, gadget, device
– You must have a boyfriend
– You must have nice hair
– You must wear great make-up
– You must be fashionable
– You must be popular
– You must watch the right films, TV shows, YT channels
– You must listen to the right music
– You must have good teeth
Phew! Anyone else exhausted just reading that little ‘must have’ list?! When you look at it like this; black and white ink on a page you can see the mountain of blows trying to fall upon every girl, every day.
So what can we do? We can fight back! But, we have to have a counterpunch. What does that look like in practical every day terms?
It looks like a few things; a fighting strategy!
Every boxer has a coach, a trainer. That trainer not only knows you but they know your enemy. Their job is to bring out the best in you and equip you to fight well, and fight to win! You may feel today like you’re on the ropes, like you’re face down on the canvas and the count is already at 9, but it is NEVER too late to get back up, get back in that fight and win! You have to do it though, no one else can fight for you, YOU have to pick yourself up and get in the game. The blame game is very disempowering; I never knew my dad, we don’t have enough money, my mum is too strict, I hate my life, I didn’t ask to be born…on and on and on, and in the meantime you’re being beaten down, put out of the game, you’re the only one who loses out. I know because that soundtrack used to play in my head all the time! So you have to become a boxer, the sporty kind.
Time to start listening to the Master Coach – God; the one who knows you, loves you, wants to see you win, knows your enemy inside out, and most importantly, HAS ALREADY BEATEN HIM!
Believe there is a good plan for your life! Jer 29:11
Believe to see God’s goodness Ps 27:13
Believe God sees you through Jesus’ perfection, all you have to do is put your trust in Him, in His perfect life and the love He gets comes straight to you! Eph 1:3-6
Believe you are NOT a mistake! Ps 139:15-16
Trust God, He will never let you down, people might, but He never will John2:24
Being different is actually AWESOME!
These are just a few small counterpunches you need to tell yourself when those other lies try to come. Take a look through the words of God in the Bible and you’ll see SO many more good, loving promises towards you. He is the one in your corner, Jesus, the one who overcame on our behalf, our work is to believe it, receive it, enforce it!
Before we wrap this up, here is also another great list of practical things you can do to help get you back in the game and off the ropes. You can read the full article HERE also.
Bless you girls, get that guard up and start fighting back, as L’Oreal says – because you’re worth it!